Fear of Rejection: What If They Don’t Like You?

One of the regulars at my monthly We Hate Networking meetups recently told me to write about how hard this is. "What if people aren't nice to you? What if they say no? What if they don't like you? Write about that." Personally, I don't struggle with this very much, and I think I know [...]

By | 2019-01-22T13:20:10+00:00 January 31st, 2018|We Hate Networking Club|0 Comments

Don’t Be That Guy Pt. 2

To me, there are two sad things about the networker we all love to hate, The Hustler: (Some) Hustlers Aren't Being True To Themselves First, I worry that many Hustlers are the result of otherwise nice, normal people trying to follow conventional networking advice that doesn't work for them. Since a lot of networking 'how [...]

By | 2018-02-12T14:26:04+00:00 January 18th, 2018|We Hate Networking Club|0 Comments

Don’t Be “That Guy” Pt.1

I think sometimes, when we say we hate networking, we actually mean we hate networkers. Not all networkers, mind you. There's a certain breed of networker that rubs many of us the wrong way. We dread encountering such a person, but almost more than that, we dread becoming such a person. The Hustler You know who [...]

By | 2018-02-12T14:26:39+00:00 January 4th, 2018|We Hate Networking Club|0 Comments

The Secret of the Holiday Season

Although I'm not a religious person, I love the holidays. Call it Hannukah, Solstice, Yule, Christmas, or whatever else; I love this season. The twinkling and flickering lights in the darkness of the long nights. The gathering of loved ones. The making and eating of special foods. The crispness of the outdoors and the coziness [...]

By | 2018-02-12T14:28:28+00:00 December 21st, 2017|We Hate Networking Club|0 Comments

The Real Reason For Networking

I'm reeling, friends. Something unspeakably terrible just happened to a friend of mine, like a bolt from the blue as she was on the brink of a new and wonderful chapter of her life. Now that chapter will never be written. Instead, she is staring down the barrel of untold quantities of grief and struggle, [...]

By | 2018-02-12T14:29:27+00:00 November 9th, 2017|We Hate Networking Club|0 Comments

It’s Not Mean To Find Your People

Who are you trying to find? In networking, it's important to define your target market. This is often understood to mean customers and clients, but in the case of networking it can be broader. It depends on what your reasons for networking are. You might be looking for friends, collaborators, suppliers, employees, etc. In any [...]

By | 2019-01-23T10:32:36+00:00 November 1st, 2017|We Hate Networking Club|0 Comments

What if Your Best New Contacts Are…Your Old Contacts?

In networking, there's often a big focus on making new connections. But if you're like me, you've already made thousands of connections, and lost track of most of them. I'm willing to bet there are at least a few old classmates, ex-neighbours, extended family members, and former colleagues lurking in your past. Some, of course, [...]

By | 2019-01-23T10:38:09+00:00 October 4th, 2017|We Hate Networking Club|0 Comments

Dos and Don’ts of Explaining What You Do

One of the toughest things about any networking conversation is that moment where we have to explain what we do. If our work is unusual, we're faced with the difficult task of explaining something complex and unfamiliar in a quick and interesting way. If our work is more common (eg. real estate or accounting), we [...]

By | 2019-01-23T10:40:27+00:00 September 6th, 2017|We Hate Networking Club|2 Comments

Building Your Network Without Selling Your Soul

We Hate Networking When It Feels Gross One thing folks seem to hate most about networking is the feeling that it's sort of gross: selfish, pushy, greedy. Nobody wants to be the stereotypical networker; the one who is always selling, who shoves his business card in everyone's face, who's always pushing his own agenda. However, we all [...]

By | 2019-01-23T11:11:18+00:00 June 7th, 2017|We Hate Networking Club|2 Comments

Mastering the Dreaded Elevator Speech

"So, what do you do?" It might be the most dreaded networking question. We stutter. We ramble. We overexplain. We go away feeling the person who asked doesn't really get it, and isn't all that interested anymore. How can we answer this question in a way that is accurate, engaging, and conducive to making great new connections? [...]

By | 2019-01-23T11:14:50+00:00 May 3rd, 2017|We Hate Networking Club|6 Comments